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When did it become okay to tell someone you don’t like how they look?

NEVER.

It never became okay!

I’ve noticed a recent increase in people commenting on how I look and giving me their quite frankly unwanted opinions on my personal decisions.

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So let me clear this up: this is for all the unwanted hair-touchers, prodders and outspoken opinion makers who I’m sure we have all encountered, and maybe if you realise you have done this you can see how rude and inappropriate you have been.

Respect is the biggest lesson to be learnt here.

Here’s 5 things all arseholes don’t realise:

  • Touching a strangers hair is inappropriate & unwelcome attention.

I cannot really find anyway to make touching a strangers hair an appropriate way to greet someone, so first of all please don’t  do it on a whim because you don’t understand it, and second of all please just don’t ask to do it. Go home and Google it or something. Most people are happy to answer any questions you have, but please don’t interrupt my private conversations. The amount of times I’ve been interrupted by a random hair toucher is unreal! I would NEVER interrupt someone to ask a dumb question so STOP IT NOW!

  • Just because I look different doesn’t  mean I want to talk to you about it

You cannot comprehend how many times I have been asked ‘What do your tattoos mean?’

I don’t ask what your hairdo means or your clothes, really please just leave me alone.

To me it’s mainly decoration, and any that I have that do mean something, what do I owe to you to tell you?

It’s not a strangers business so back the fuck up.

  • People with tattoos think its a way to relate to me:

Okay, so you have tattoos, I have tattoos, that’s great, I still don’t want to talk about mine, so please stand here and tell me for hours about how and when and where you got yours and I can try slowly slither away out of earshot. Holy Christ. I don’t wanna talk about it.

(This one is probably the bane of my life.)

  • You don’t like my hair/tattoos/piercings/image/style and feel an unbearable need to let me know:

I don’t judge you or comment on your life, so please keep your thoughts to yourself. I have a partner and I am very happy and content. I don’t need your approval and I am very aware of my life choices. It doesn’t bother me if you don’t like something about me, but I would certainly never feel the need to tell anyone friend or stranger something about their image that I personally didn’t like. Keep it to yourself! How rude of you! Live and let live!

  • You need to let me know that I’m probably going to regret that:

Oh yeah, so I never realised until you mentioned that it’s permanent.

Yeah I’ll totes regret it.

I hate your face!

(jokes)

So, what I’m trying to say is that I don’t understand why people think its okay to comment, is it because they think I want the attention? I genuinely think that some people assume that if you have tattoos and piercings and ‘mad’ hair you are doing it for attention, well you are very wrong.

I along with most other people who are seen as alternative are just being who we are.

I understand why people ask about these things but most of the time I get asked in a very rude manner. I worded this post in a jokey manner to try keep it fun. I am never rude to people who do ask me about things, but I would live a simpler life without this hassle as I’m sure a lot of people would too.

I choose to live my life this way and I like to decorate my body, I would never dream of asking someone why they don’t have body modifications so please give us a break and realise that we don’t all live our lives  in the same way!

* as a back note I’d like to say that I understand genuine human curiosity and that I can respect that and I can tell the people who are genuinely curious from the invasive rude people! Most of you are just lovely, it’s just a small percentage that lets us down.

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Focus on the journey, not the destination. Joy is found not in finishing an activity but in doing it. – Greg Anderson

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Often we are made to feel that our achievements are merely the end result of our hard work when, in fact the most enjoyable,  meaningful and memorable parts of our lives are often not the milestones themselves, but rather, they are what we discover during the process.

“Do not indulge in dreams of having what you have not, but reckon up the chief of the blessings you do possess, and then thankfully remember how you would crave for them if they were not yours.”
― Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

I don’t know many people who would talk about the day they graduated as the best experience of their lives. On the contrary, I know many, many people including myself, who would talk about how much they loved their time as a student, the friends they made, the nights out, the partying, the laughter at their failures, looking back at the foolishness of leaving assignments to the very last night before they were due, the exam panics, their frantic love lives, nights in, nights out, the joy of student discounts, working out how to pay bills and wash clothes without mum, summer holidays, wearing the same (hoodies & jeans) clothes most of the time, surviving mainly solely on cheap pasta and lager, keeping fit by walking all over town up and down stairs from class to class, not worrying about too many responsibilities and just being happy & grateful to make it through to another school year.

Some things never really change, we keep going through the same challenges our whole lives, always hoping one day we’re going to make it. There’s no end though. What are we looking for? You could have the longest most impressive CV ever written, you could have climbed up snow topped mountains, parachuted out of planes, or cycled across the Arabian desert (that one would be really impressive)!

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If you didn’t live within that moment though, if you didn’t stop to take a deep breath, if you didn’t focus on the present, let yourself go and immersed yourself in it, with no flicker of guilt of what you did yesterday, and no worries of what could have happened tomorrow. If you spent your time dreaming of what else could be happening, wishing you were somewhere else, younger, older, fitter, kinder, meaner, faster, more successful, more like that guy you heard about, more like your mums neighbours daughter who’s jet setting all over the world on a huge wage for a successful company, feeling jealous, feeling like the grass is greener elsewhere, dreaming about “if onlys” then you really haven’t made the most of the present. It doesn’t matter. We should be trying to be bettering ourselves not trying to be better than others.

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We’ve forgotten that in fact nobody has reached their destination. Every body is on a journey. Focus on that journey. Trust me, its the best part. If you’re unemployed, spend your time wisely and make the most of your spare time because trust me when you have a job you will pine for the times you didn’t have to work, and will wish you had made the most of it. As is true from the other perspective, as money does not provide us with happiness, but quite often a unique purpose does and we are too often reliant on others to provide ourselves with a purpose in life. The most fulfilling thing you can do is to get up and give yourself a purpose, use your potential. It doesn’t have to be a massively impressive purpose. Feed it and it will grow.

Believing that “Once I have a baby, my life will be better” or convincing yourself that “Getting married will fix our relationship”,  that bagging your dream job, losing the last of that Christmas weight or winning a huge sum of money will make you happy will not help you to succeed in seeing the full potential in yourself. Of course there is nothing wrong with wanting these things, but if you are looking for these things to add more to your meaning in life without being already able to see the beauty in your life NOW then it is likely to be a short term gain. You will still have the same issues, and the lack of coping mechanisms. It is just as hard to be a failure as it is to be a success. You deserve to realize your potential now. Let’s stop worrying.

“Regain your senses, call yourself back, and once again wake up. Now that you realize that only dreams were troubling you, view this ‘reality’ as you view your dreams.”
Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

 

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“Writing, someone said, is turning blood into ink. Whatever, the idea of suffering is so natural to both writers and runners it seems to be a common bond.” – Running and Being, Dr George Sheehan

A few weeks ago, my brother’s wife Sarah shared a link online about a challenge called 5×50. I looked up the website www.5×50.org to see what it was all about. This challenge meant signing up to a website and then agreeing to run, jog, walk (or equivalent) a 5 kilometer distance every day for 50 days. It sounded a bit overwhelming!

I didn’t want to sign up to the website, (that’s my inner rebellious streak showing) but I decided straight away that I wanted to do this challenge myself!

One of the reasons I didn’t sign up to the official challenge is because I wanted to show how it’s possible to challenge yourself and use your own progress as an incentive. I also wanted this to become a habit in my life, so if I was doing the official challenge maybe I would feel relieved for it to be over after 50 days, whereas this way, I can use my intuition  and I know that I am finding ways everyday to make sure I fit my life around my workout. Also the faster and fitter I get, the less time my workout takes up out of my life! Only around 2 weeks in and I already feel like I now need to get out for my wee run or a nice long walk everyday to function properly!

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I downloaded  the Map My Run app for my Samsung (Android) phone and I started using it straight away! The actual 5×50 challenge started officially on Sunday the 30th March, so although i started a week early trying and testing all the walks ahead of time to make sure I felt I could commit to it, I’m officially 13 straight days into it so far!

If you want to see my progress/ keep up to date/ join in then you can find my app uploads on www.mapmyrun.com by searching for Punk Morvs. You may need an account to access all the information though, but it would be great if you have an account, then add me as a friend! I’d love some running buddies, wherever you are in the world!

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I got my Nike running shoes, my super comfy and warm black leggings/ yoga pants ( with reflector detail) and my cute little training socks all at Sports Direct on Paisley High Street. My sports bras were pretty good value too from Primark. I usually wear any old t-shirt with the rest of my gear, plus I tie my hair up in a cute bandana so it’s outta my face. You don’t need to break the bank buying running gear and you don’t need to wear nasty sportswear ( I love my tacky pink and blue trainers!). You can still totally dress like yourself, which in my case is just a bit strange, but who cares! As long as you feel comfortable that’s the most important thing!

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Myself (looking very sleepy!) with some lovely ladies, including my sister Cat, just before we ran the Barcelona Half Marathon last year!

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I would never have thought I could run a half marathon, nevermind a marathon (which definitely seems more realistic now!) so it was a really fulfilling experience! If you just sign up to these things, even just a 5km race or 10km race with your friends you will get through it and feel so proud!

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I just recently moved house so it’s been great to get out and about to discover the local area, plus with the GPS function on my phone the app it shouts out tells me when I have completed each kilometer and it records it really easily afterwards, uploading it online to the map my run website with the simplest push of a button. It records a full map of my route, saves the route in case I (or anyone else) want to do the same route again, and records all of my splits too so I can see what areas of a workout need to be, well, worked on! Plus, if I ever feel lost I can easily work out on the map where i am and feel free to adventure knowing i can get home okay and vaguely how far away I am.

You can view some of my routes here.

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Lola relaxing in Barshaw Park after a long walk. Greyhounds are notoriously lazy!

Lola (my rescue greyhound) is excellent company during our long walks and she can certainly sprint when given the opportunity, but 5km+ runs are not her bag, so if I feel I need some quality time with my girl or if my legs are tired, I just walk with Lola for between 45minutes and 1 hr & a half to get in our daily walk instead of a run. Lola’s a major sniffer and stops a lot to do so, so she makes walks very slow, whereas a 5km run can take as little as 25-30 minutes out of your day when you are alone and focused.

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I think the other lovely thing is that it feels as if spring has sprung! The weather has been so beautiful and I hate sitting about in the house when its so beautiful outside!

It is hard. It’s really hard. The key is to stop thinking. Just put on your shoes, get excited about the breeze in your face and THAT feeling you get afterwards. It’s not about being the best. It is about doing the best for yourself. I read a really good article about the fact that it is hard or uncomfortable when you are running at times, but if you just keep going from that point and don’t give up, you realize it never gets worse than that, you just get used to the feeling, or it goes away/ becomes less important and then you lose yourself in the moment. It’s a bit like taking out the rubbish, after a run I feel like I’ve thrown all of my worries and tension into a bin and it’s no longer my trash to carry around!

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My sister Cat & I after the Nike Cursa Bombers in Barcelona a couple of years ago. It translates as the Fireman’s Run, where the firemen of Barcelona run the full 10 km race in their heavy fire fighting suits. They must have been boiling, it was so humid! I made wee silly fiery hair accessories for it and covered my face in glitter, so they would chase me ( justified this in my head that I would maybe look on fire and that they would chase me trying to put me out)!

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It’s very hard in the beginning to understand that the whole idea is not to beat the other runners. Eventually you learn that the competition is against the little voice inside you that wants you to quit.”George Sheehan

The one other important factor for me personally that I am reluctant to mention too much, but which I think others may find helpful, is the effect on my mental health since I started making a real effort to spend time with myself doing physically and/ or mentally demanding things everyday. My self esteem has increased, as has my self worth. My symptoms of past problems have pretty much been shot out the water because i have no room in my life for silly problems anymore. I am full of natural highs and a feeling of being connected to nature, my old negative and unhelpful thoughts barely cross my mind anymore. There’s an awful lot to be said for losing your thoughts whilst running through nature. It’s about taking the bins out every day and not letting the rubbish mount up in your mind or on your shoulders.

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When I lived in Castelldefels near Barcelona, my favourite runs were either the run down to the beach where you were rewarded with the sea breeze and sandy feet or the cooler more secluded run through the forest with all of its hills and trees shading the sun.

Whilst in Barcelona, I also participated in a really fun session of Laughter Yoga during an Improvised Comedy weekend getaway with some pals. It was basically hours of full on playing like children and getting back to letting yourself be free of judgement of others, allowing your creativity to flow like it did as a child. It was brilliant fun, we were so sore from laughing so hard and absolutely exhausted too!

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Laughter yogis after a sticker fight.

I found it really fun and useful and I have found some classes in Partick, Glasgow, with a place called Joyworks. I’m not sure if they will be taught in the same style as in Barcelona but I’m definitely excited to try it!

There’s a class on next Thursday night (17th April) if any body is interested coming along with me?

The details of the event are here.

Leave me a comment or contact me through the contact page if you have any questions.

Thank you so much for reading and I really would love to hear if I’ve inspired you to get out and about in nature or just out and about more aware of the present moment.

I really hope that you’ve enjoyed reading my blog.

“It is never too late to become what you might have been” – George Eliot

 

 

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Punching above my weight

Here is a sneaky wee peek of my as yet unfinished thigh piece, it’s still to get dot work shading added and will be extended too cos we ran outta time last week, but I DID really enjoy endure my Valentines gift to myself. I had to go to work straight after with an insanely red hot thigh all night but it was totally worth it! This is a photo of it still healing.

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As usual I have a million things I wanna mention….

First off:

On Tuesday night it was my ex boyfriend Alan’s birthday. We are still very close mates,and I’m sure we always will be, plus his family are like blood to me, and some of the funnest & funniest folk I know. Because of some random wisdom teeth removals/hand allergies/work commitments, out of the usual crazy crew, it ended up just being me, Alan and his dad, Ian, being the only ones able to make it out for dinner. We met up in Paisley and went for a train-waiting drink at The Last Post, which is your typical Wetherspoons style pub. We hopped on the train to Glasgow and stopped off at Ad Lib ( http://www.adlibglasgow.com/city-centre/ ) just across from Glasgow Central Station. They have a great mix of food options in their menu, and have really embraced this kinda USA southern comfort food idea, with a menu based on New Orleans style food,  lots of meat and big DIY burgers. I’m quite fussy but I bended my usual choices in order to have a wee bit of fun! We ordered the veg chilli nachos and  the salt & pepper squid for a starter to share between us. The squid was genuinely the nicest squid I have ever had, they had made it beautifully and it wasn’t that chewy yucky way at all, you normally get when you order squid or calamari. In fact it was really nicely presented too. (My phone ran outta battery too so I don’t even have photos!) Next up Alan & Ian ordered rib-eye steaks with onion rings & french fries (they were those lovely salty skinny fries) and I ticked one thing off my bucket list by ordering a full lobster… It’s something I have always wanted to try, and although I don’t eat very much meat at all I had to jump at the opportunity to try it. It was nice (I thought only the claw meat was decent & it was still a bit too creepy for me to enjoy) but now I’ve done it once, I probably wouldn’t do it again!

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We enjoyed a bottle of house Merlot, but also dabbled in their cocktail list, which I though was a bit expensive to be honest… £7 a cocktail?! Maybe I’m out of touch, but I work in a bar and I know if you’re ordering a simple cocktail like a Cosmo or whatever, they are not needing to charge that much, especially if you compare it to the price of a spirit mix, when that’s basically what they are with a few extras! Anyway I had the luxury of ordering the boys theirs whilst they were out for a smoke so I got Alan a “Cherry Cola” which was lovely but way too sweet for me, and I got Ian, who loves Jack Daniels, a bourbon based cocktail meanwhile I opted for a classic Jagerbomb. I really love Jagermeister, and the Jagerbombs here were sizeable! 🙂 We all had a great time at Ad Lib, the staff were great and chatty (hot South African waiter made it even better) and although we were the last people in, we didn’t feel pressured to leave, so I’d definitely recommend it! We went to The Steampunk Cafe, Drury Lane, to check it out, and although it was in the process of shutting we got in a half hour of pool and admired the decor.

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The bar dude was nice and friendly too and we were on first name terms by the time we left (half an hour later!) We then got a taxi to Nice n Sleazys,(‘cos it was pure heavy rainin’) where there was a Motown club night on downstairs. None of this night was planned and it was genuinely the most fun night out I’ve had in a really long time! We danced ’til 3am full of Black Russians. Our pals came and met us for a good wee boogie as they had tickets for Russell Brand who sadly, at the very last minute casually in a very messiah manner cancelled on no doubt hundreds of people who had altered their plans to try see him perform that night. Alan took me to see him for my birthday so I’ve already seen that show. It was alright. This Tuesday night was better 🙂 Work the next day however…

In other news:

Every Saturday from 12pm I attend a boxing class at Prolife Fitness Centre in Paisley http://www.prolifefitnesscentre.com/

I really love this gym and still go every Saturday for my boxing class even though I had to change gyms as I moved too far away to justify going to it anymore, plus I got plain lazy. The gym I did join is Abbey Mill fitness club http://www.abbeymillfitness.co.uk/ which I like for its simplicity and I hate working out in front of people, so they quieter the better, and as it’s round the corner I can try hit it when it’s at it’s quietest. I pay £5 every Saturday morning though to go to Gary “the heat” Murray’s class at Prolife. It’s supposed to be an hour or so but it is normally quite brutal and sometime runs to an hour and three quarters! At least you’re not being cheated of a workout though! Gary makes the class really fun and we’re always having a bit of a laugh whilst we are throwing the punches.

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It normally consists of a (quite intense) warmup, 2 x 3minute skipping rounds, then the gloves go on and we pair off, and make our way round to hitting Gary (the best part if you ask me) then after a good hour or so into the class we will warm down, or so he says, with lots of ab and strength work. It’s a great class and I’d recommend it to anyone who lives nearby. I also need a partner for this coming Saturday as my brother can’t make it…any takers?

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Photo above is my sister Cat, My brother Gord and me after a heavy class 🙂

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This is taken just after a really tough class. Not physically tough , but mentally. I really struggle sometimes but this class makes me feel strong, powerful and worthwhile. I love it and the banter, and I would recommend it to anyone else suffering from low self esteem ( although, i know you wouldn’t think i do, right)

QUICK NEWS SECTION:

I was guest co-presenter on PSG radio on Monday night  & we had to re record the whole hour long show again after we’d already recorded it  to make it audible for podcast cos a cable wasn’t in right, haha gutted! http://www.psgradio.com It streams 7-8pm every Monday, but if you miss it you can catch the podcasts online every week from the website.

I went out for my bestie Raquel’s birthday on Saturday and we may have frequented the Variety Bar, It was excellent, great night out!

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Raquel also has a blog, hers is http://raquelroman.wordpress.com/

She’s a super cute Chicago girl who I met many years ago in a cafe in Paisley, I remember she was so cute I made my boss in the cafe give her a job and from that time we have always been best pals.

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I wore this frilly pink bikini top with a striped tight over knee length skirt ( both from G21 @ Asda )  I have been so stuck for outfit options lately for events, I’ve only been able to run to Asda and it has totally surprised me to be honest! Great stuff!I got a beautiful kimono here too last month!

Cute Lola moment:

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I have much more to share but I have run outta readable time/space again so I will take a break tonight!

Thanks so much for reading!

Next time I’ve gotta update you on the Sailor Jerry’s competition I won and my home furniture haul!

Will update as soon as I can.

Lotsaaa,  love from Morvs 🙂

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