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When did it become okay to tell someone you don’t like how they look?

NEVER.

It never became okay!

I’ve noticed a recent increase in people commenting on how I look and giving me their quite frankly unwanted opinions on my personal decisions.

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So let me clear this up: this is for all the unwanted hair-touchers, prodders and outspoken opinion makers who I’m sure we have all encountered, and maybe if you realise you have done this you can see how rude and inappropriate you have been.

Respect is the biggest lesson to be learnt here.

Here’s 5 things all arseholes don’t realise:

  • Touching a strangers hair is inappropriate & unwelcome attention.

I cannot really find anyway to make touching a strangers hair an appropriate way to greet someone, so first of all please don’t  do it on a whim because you don’t understand it, and second of all please just don’t ask to do it. Go home and Google it or something. Most people are happy to answer any questions you have, but please don’t interrupt my private conversations. The amount of times I’ve been interrupted by a random hair toucher is unreal! I would NEVER interrupt someone to ask a dumb question so STOP IT NOW!

  • Just because I look different doesn’t  mean I want to talk to you about it

You cannot comprehend how many times I have been asked ‘What do your tattoos mean?’

I don’t ask what your hairdo means or your clothes, really please just leave me alone.

To me it’s mainly decoration, and any that I have that do mean something, what do I owe to you to tell you?

It’s not a strangers business so back the fuck up.

  • People with tattoos think its a way to relate to me:

Okay, so you have tattoos, I have tattoos, that’s great, I still don’t want to talk about mine, so please stand here and tell me for hours about how and when and where you got yours and I can try slowly slither away out of earshot. Holy Christ. I don’t wanna talk about it.

(This one is probably the bane of my life.)

  • You don’t like my hair/tattoos/piercings/image/style and feel an unbearable need to let me know:

I don’t judge you or comment on your life, so please keep your thoughts to yourself. I have a partner and I am very happy and content. I don’t need your approval and I am very aware of my life choices. It doesn’t bother me if you don’t like something about me, but I would certainly never feel the need to tell anyone friend or stranger something about their image that I personally didn’t like. Keep it to yourself! How rude of you! Live and let live!

  • You need to let me know that I’m probably going to regret that:

Oh yeah, so I never realised until you mentioned that it’s permanent.

Yeah I’ll totes regret it.

I hate your face!

(jokes)

So, what I’m trying to say is that I don’t understand why people think its okay to comment, is it because they think I want the attention? I genuinely think that some people assume that if you have tattoos and piercings and ‘mad’ hair you are doing it for attention, well you are very wrong.

I along with most other people who are seen as alternative are just being who we are.

I understand why people ask about these things but most of the time I get asked in a very rude manner. I worded this post in a jokey manner to try keep it fun. I am never rude to people who do ask me about things, but I would live a simpler life without this hassle as I’m sure a lot of people would too.

I choose to live my life this way and I like to decorate my body, I would never dream of asking someone why they don’t have body modifications so please give us a break and realise that we don’t all live our lives  in the same way!

* as a back note I’d like to say that I understand genuine human curiosity and that I can respect that and I can tell the people who are genuinely curious from the invasive rude people! Most of you are just lovely, it’s just a small percentage that lets us down.

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I Was Never The Girl Next Door.

“Cultivate the habit of being grateful for every good thing that comes to you, and to give thanks continuously. And because all things have contributed to your advancement, you should include all things in your gratitude.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson

ImageI LOVE a good wholesome chunk of R.W.Emerson knowledge in my life every so OFTEN. It’s so important to keep yourself seeing and focusing on the positives in life as these are the things that grow and create new and better things. By fixating on the bad, we only see and create more negativity. Being aware of this is the only thing necessary to change the pattern. I often stop myself mid way through thinking or ‘feeling’ something, as I realise that I’ve really only been focusing on the bad stuff. But that’s good! At least you realise it, even if you still did it, you’re aware! That’s real good! Don’t beat yourself up about anything. They are only thoughts in your mind and you can easily transform them into positives with simply a change of mind set.

So, as I mentioned in previous blogs I was a finalist in The Miss Scottish Pin Up 2014 pageant,( under my model name Delilah Cocklepop)  which was being held at The Scottish Tattoo Convention in The Corn Exchange, Edinburgh on Saturday the 29th March. I am not a very competitive character so I found this an especially challenging task to undertake it, but I’m proud I did, so please read on and see how it all worked out.

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I had been so nervous that I had creepily contacted one of the other girls who I had figured out was also a participant, and y’know I had a real good feeling about her. That girl was Molly Spartan aka Louise Marshall, who was basically the babe who held me together all day. We had a total laugh and I’m so glad to have met her. She just happens to be kick ass and has a big part in the running of ICW (Insane Championship Wrestling) so NOT ONLY is she a hot pinup babe, super organised, friendly & funny, she’s also bad ass! We had a proper giggle, and we went out for a cheeky wee dinner at The City Cafe afterwards, with her beautiful pal Suzie. It was so American diner stylesque and we even got there in time to have our own booth! It was brilliant! A wee roll and mug of soup went down very well after a busy pinup day. It felt like I had ended up at the right place with the right people.

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Suzie, Louise & I all relaxed after a busy day…

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The day was excellent, the other girls were all fantastic, inspiring and friendly and the pageant was hosted by the beautiful freshly wed ( merely a few days beforehand in New Zealand so slightly jetlagged) Rachel Renegade, who is a member of the Pretty Things Peepshow cast!

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The very beautiful Miss Nikki Pozo and I got photographed by The Sun photographers and we were featured in The Sun on Sunday the very next day!

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The pageant itself was really nerve-wracking as we hadn’t been on the stage before and it was the very first time the pageant had taken place (plus most of the girls first time ever doing something like this) so we were all super nervous. We walked out into the BUZZ BUZZ BUZZ of tattoo guns and we realised pretty quickly that probably the punters were much more interested in the tats getting done at stalls than us, so once we had done our wee posey swimwear round, I think I speak for a lot of the girls in saying that we felt much more confident after that.

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The next round was Eveningwear, followed by a short interview. I was brickin’ the interview bit. I just end up always saying the most wrong/ most innapropriate /crazy things so this was a bit of a nervey one too, but everyone aced it!

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God, these girls looked good and could talk the talk and walk the walk!

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I took a risk and decided to wear lots of colours and patterns, plus black lips for the evening wear round. I know it may not be traditional pin up but it’s what pin up is to me so I was true to myself and I can see that I’m not fitting into the classic pinup style. I’ve always been a bit  out there.

The thing is too, I’m not just a pin up. I’m a mish mash. One day I’m a punk rocker, next I’m rockin’ 50’s classic style, next day I’ll be wearing black lipstick and a rock tee. I see STYLE as ever changing with YOUR mood, which is a beautiful thing. As opposed to fashion which is just what magazines want you to buy full price in the shops. Stop giving into fashion and just explore what you love. Sorry boy readers. But this can apply to you too! 🙂 There is nothing better than a man with his his own personal style!

I got these shoes for only £10 in The Cooperative shop in The Paisley Centre. Whaaaaat?! I’m in love, They’re so much better in person. Best bargain. PVC, Bright, Comfy. Awesome.

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Photo doesn’t even do them justice! 🙂

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It’s a blurry photo, but you get the idea, hopefully!

By this point I think everyone was knackered! Even the photographing friends!

We then had a good wee break until we were back up for the announcement of the top 3, the 1st, 2nd & 3rd!

Which was……

*DRUM ROLL*

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In 3rd Place: My beautiful bestie Miss Molly Spartan

In 2nd Place: The Fabulous Miss Nikki Pozo

And in 1st Place, was the lovely Miss Edith!

Edith was so beautiful, kind and friendly all day, as were all these luverrrly chicks.

All the runners up received a beautiful fresh single red rose and a badge.

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I ended up having great banter on the train home too! Being sober on Saturday night train is awesome!

Thank you so much for your support and for reading my blog !

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Whether or not you’re a pinup, a goth, a ned, a hippy, or a WHATEVER. Let’s not worry about that. Don’t let any fools let you down in any way. Take part in life in a fun and loving way and enjoy all of the experiences you need to deal with. People are great, loving, fun, but they can be mean and harsh. The best thing you can ever do is just to remind yourself of the FACT that only what matters is your opinion of yourself. Because that is what others tend to base their own off. So make yours good. Make it positive. You’re a star and worth so much than you believe.

The Pinup Contest scared the shit outta me, that’s why I did it. I didn’t hope to win as an achievement, because for me, just even turning up and daring to bare my flesh was an achievement personally. So don’t you ever feel intimidated by anything or anyone. You are all powerful and if you just go with the flow, it’ll see you alright. The pageant was brilliant! It wasn’t too scary or any of the things I could have imagined it to be. I learnt a big lesson in why not to over think these kinds of situations!

What a brilliant selection of artists there was! Much love and please post your tattoo photos from the convention if you can!

Cheers!

Lots of love & happiness

Morv x

 

 

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